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A great video and a very good site to visit. Even those of us who know everything might find something useful. I did not know to put my DNR form and other information on the refrigerator, for instance.
Another tip, if you have DNR and something happens ... do not call 911 or paramedics right away. They are REQUIRED to resuscitate even if there is a DNR order! I have all my POAs, DNR, last wishes, living will, current medications, etc in an envelope in the drawer of the front hall table. Several times when I had to be taken or take myself to the ER, I could just grab the envelope and have all important info with me. I have shared my last wishes with my niece and nephew who are the next in line trustees and hold POA for me. In the next month I plan on finalizing my cremation plans and paying for it. All sounds somewhat depressing but I feel a strange empowerment by "controlling those things I can control" since there are so many I cannot!
Taking charge of one's eventuality is less depressing than depending on someone else who may have a sudden attack of 'what will people say' (about cremation or anything else) and change what one intended despite previous instructions. What comes to mind is a woman who died at her sister's home, under her sister's care. Her final words to sister were, "You burn me, Betty!" intending cremation which they had discussed at length. Her daughters who had left the woman's care while she lived entirely to the sister, came in and nixed that idea right off. "Mama needs a proper burial." Betty was heartbroken.
thanks for the reminder Michael – I saw this video quite a while ago and planned to share it and had totally forgotten! Now I'll do a bit of a summary and share it on my blog. Things would be so much easier if people plan ahead :-)
I did a lot of planning ahead when Gregory was still able to be part of the discussions, more planning ahead when I had to act as POA for his health, and now even more to plan for my own end since, while I have family, I am by myself and have specific feelings about how I want some issues handled and want to make it easier for my next in line trustees, POAs, and family.
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